In today's world, it seems like everyone is easily offended. Social media has become a platform where people can express their outrage and indignation over anything that doesn't align with their beliefs or values. But what if I told you that the more offended you get, the more you become a pawn in someone else's game?
When we get offended, we give our power away to others. We allow them to control our emotions and reactions. We become reactive instead of proactive, which means we're not in control anymore.
On the other hand, when we don't flinch and keep our cool, we're the ones who are in control. We take charge of our emotions and reactions instead of letting others dictate how we should feel or act.
This isn't an easy game to play though. It requires emotional intelligence and self-awareness to be able to detach ourselves from situations that trigger us. It also means being comfortable with discomfort because sometimes things will happen that go against our beliefs or values but it doesn't mean they have to offend us.
The truth is, getting offended rarely leads to positive outcomes. It often creates division rather than unity as people tend to surround themselves with those who share their views while demonizing those who don't.
So how do we stop getting offended? Firstly, by recognizing that offense is a choice - nobody can make us feel anything without our consent. Secondly, by practicing empathy - trying to understand where someone else is coming from even if we disagree with them can help us see things from a different perspective which may prevent us from feeling triggered.
Lastly, by focusing on solutions rather than problems - instead of dwelling on what offends us about something/someone, lets focus on finding constructive ways forward so both parties benefit.
The more offended you get; the more you become a pawn in someone else's game. But when you keep your cool, when you don't flinch; you're the one in control. It's a game very few understand but once mastered, we'll be able to navigate through life with greater ease and confidence.
